Published On: Sat, May 25th, 2019

Retiring Single

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Retiring single is much less daunting than in prior generations. Part of the reason is that it’s now socially acceptable. Women desire independence, but don’t want to be disconnected from people. This is actually easy to achieve when your social network of friends and family is well developed and local.

I believe that it’s not only acceptable to retire single, but it can be more rewarding. Single women often have a much broader social network than married women. A recently divorced woman in her 50s told me that her husband was so unfriendly to her friends, they stopped visiting. Her network gradually disappeared and stayed that way for many years. After her divorce, she has many more friends and has social engagements any night of the week if she wants. She is more socially involved now than when married.

When a man is not in your life, you’re freer to do what you enjoy and what benefits you the most. Some of you may think that means doing more things alone. But, that is now OK and acceptable. There is nothing wrong with doing things alone while you always have your network to fall back on. So, part of retiring alone is that you must be the first one to accept and want it. If this is a calculated decision based on proper planning, you’ll feel more confident and energized to embrace it.

The chances are that as your network develops, you will be doing less and less alone. Our goal is to always stay connected to the friends and family of our choice. A boyfriend can be part of this network, since being single only means you are not married or cohabiting. I’m not suggesting celibacy unless that is your conscience decision. I’m suggesting an independent life that you control and decide when to bond or not bond with the opposite gender. There is no pressure to perform or follow the expectations of others unless you choose to do so. You’ll need to explain your position to a boyfriend and request his acceptance of such.

Single women I know that are successful at networking, claim they are happy not dating and don’t feel a need. So, I can personally verify that happy and successful adjustments can be made. That being said, being single is not for everyone. Whether you are an introvert(internally focused) or extrovert may matter. Since these types may be genetic and hard wired into your brain, you might want to see where you fit. Most of us know which type we are. If you are an introvert, you enjoy spending time alone and tend not miss people. So, this lifestyle may be more suitable for the introvert who enjoys more solitude.

If you are thinking about taking the single path in retirement, look into you past first. How happy are you on your own? Do you tend to get lonely when not around people? Does a lot of social contact exhaust you? It’s just about understand your social needs. If you have a history of doing well with solitude and don’t crave social contact, this might be for you.

In conclusion, retiring single is now an acceptable and viable option for women. A well developed social network provides the mental stimulation and emotional support needed. Having a boyfriend is just part of the network. Being introverted makes this lifestyle easier to adapt to. Women who make this adjustment, feel they have a happy and complete life. I’ve always felt that the best retirement is based on your personality type. What society or past generation did has nothing to do with you because they don’t have your character. L. Johnson

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